PolyCard — Player Intake Profile

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Solo Poly Person

Already identifies as polyamorous. Looking for connections — nesting partner, polycule addition, or exploration.

Standard match flow

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Poly Curious (Solo)

Individual not sure if they're poly. Wants to explore the space and meet people before committing to an identity.

Matched with openness weight

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Couple — Curious

Two people in an existing relationship, not sure if they're mono or poly. Each partner joins separately as individuals.

Each has own profile + answers

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Monogamous Person

Identifies as monogamous but curious about the community or considering expanding their relationship model.

Transparent in profile

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Existing Polycule Member

Part of an established polycule. May be looking to expand connections or attending as a group.

Can link to their group

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Relationship Anarchist

Doesn't follow hierarchical relationship structures. Open to many kinds of connections without predefined roles.

Standard match flow

Account basics

Email, display name, pronouns, photo (optional). No real name required — this is a safe space.

Display name Email Pronouns Profile photo (optional) Age (must be 18+)

Relationship identity

Who are you right now? Select all that apply. No judgment — "not sure" is a valid and first-class answer.

Polyamorous Monogamous Poly curious Relationship anarchist In a couple (exploring) Part of a polycule Not sure yet 💭

Identity & values

Helps the matching engine align compatible worldviews. Multi-select — you contain multitudes.

LGBTQ+ Straight Bisexual / Pansexual Queer Asexual spectrum Demisexual Homoflexible Heteroflexible Religious Spiritual (non-religious) Atheist / Agnostic Conservative Liberal / Progressive Politically neutral Prefer not to say

What you're looking for

Your intent for joining. This feeds directly into the matching algorithm. Honest answers get better matches.

Nesting / life partner Join or form a polycule Casual connections Friendship first Community & belonging Still figuring it out Expand our existing relationship

Hard deal-breakers (private)

Shown only to the matching engine, never to other players. Auto-disqualifies incompatible matches before the game starts.

Violence / aggression Dishonesty / cheating in poly Coercion or pressure Unsafe sex practices Unicorn hunting dynamic 🦄 Large age gaps (self-set) Specific relationship styles

🦄 On Unicorn Hunters — a design note

"Unicorn hunters" are couples who seek a single bisexual woman to be a perfect "third" — often with controlling or unrealistic expectations. This dynamic is widely considered harmful in poly communities.

The app doesn't ban couples from joining — it handles them with honesty
Couples join as separate individuals, not as a "couple account"
The intake questionnaire surfaces the dynamic — e.g., "We are seeking a third to join our existing relationship as a unit" triggers specific follow-up questions
Players can flag "unicorn hunting dynamic" as a hard deal-breaker — they won't be matched with couples exhibiting those patterns
The scenario questions themselves help reveal controlling vs. healthy couple dynamics

Does this intake flow cover who your players are? What's missing or needs adjusting?

Specifically: are there player types or identity dimensions we haven't captured? Should any of these be required vs. optional?

Player Intake & Profile

🦄 On Unicorn Hunters — a design note